How To Put Your Friendships First

Without recess or after-school activities to lean on, building new friendships as an adult can be hard with a capital H. Sure, you could turn to your colleagues, neighbors, or fellow gym-goers (if you’re into that sort of thing). But even that can be pretty limiting.

Enter: Our top three recs to help you put your social life first this year. Get your phone ready…

• Download nudge.

Aka, an app that’s actually worth the phone storage. Nudge texts you fun things to do in your city on a regular basis. Founded by a brother-sister duo, the app sends you tips and ideas, like how to snag a reservation at the best restaurants or which pop-up markets are worth the trek. Plus, you can customize their recs based on your specific interests and neighborhoods. Did you just become the planner friend? Yes, yes you did.

• Sign up for a class.

Drinks dates (even the friend-kind) can get a little tiring when you’re racking your brain for topics to cover in convo. Instead, try bonding by signing up for a class based on a niche hobby or interesting area of study. Like goat yoga, beginner ceramics, improv, mocktail-making, or even hot girl-walking. That way, you’ll already have something specific to talk about when you’re asked to mingle or — brace yourself — partner up with a stranger. 

And because no one likes going to class alone, it makes for an easy excuse to exchange contact info so you can coordinate for next time. Not sure where to start? Check out sites like Meetup or ClassPass for local inspo. 

• Try a getting-to-know-you card game.

“We’re Not Really Strangers” is like everyone’s favorite questions game, only better. Consider this a great way to dive into those deeper convos without the pressure of having to come up with ice breakers on your own. There are three unique ‘intimacy’ levels. Plus a few wild cards so you’re always on your toes. Try this with friends at a party to kick-off convo, or on a date to get to know your partner (or partner-to-be) on a whole new level. Gather ‘round. 

PS: Got more goals for 2024? Get more recs, tips, and tricks that fit your lifestyle here.